Deep secrets [electronic resource] : boys, friendships, and the crisis of connection / Niobe Way.
2011
BF575.F66 W39 2011eb
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Deep secrets [electronic resource] : boys, friendships, and the crisis of connection / Niobe Way.
Author
Way, Niobe, 1963-
ISBN
9780674061361 electronic book
9780674046641
9780674046641
Publication Details
Cambridge, Mass. : Harvard University Press, 2011.
Language
English
Description
1 online resource (326 p.)
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BF575.F66 W39 2011eb
Dewey Decimal Classification
155.5/32
Summary
"Boys are emotionally illiterate and don't want intimate friendships". In this empirically grounded challenge to our stereotypes about boys and men, the author reveals the intense intimacy among teenage boys especially during early and middle adolescence. Boys not only share their deepest secrets and feelings with their closest male friends, they claim that without them they would go "wacko." Yet as boys become men, they become distrustful, lose these friendships, and feel isolated and alone. Drawing from hundreds of interviews conducted throughout adolescence with black, Latino, white, and Asian American boys, this work reveals the ways in which we have been telling ourselves a false story about boys, friendships, and human nature. Boys' descriptions of their male friendships sound more like "something out of Love Story than Lord of the Flies." Yet in late adolescence, boys feel they have to "man up" by becoming stoic and independent. Vulnerable emotions and intimate friendships are for girls and gay men. "No homo" becomes their mantra. These findings are alarming, given what we know about links between friendships and health, and even longevity. Rather than a "boy crisis," the author argues that boys are experiencing a "crisis of connection" because they live in a culture where human needs and capacities are given a sex (female) and a sexuality (gay), and thus discouraged for those who are neither. The author argues that the solution lies with exposing the inaccuracies of our gender stereotypes and fostering these critical relationships and fundamental human skills.
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Includes bibliographical references (p. [283]-314) and index.
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Table of Contents
The hidden landscape of boys' friendships
Investigating boys, friendships, and human nature
I: Friendships during early and middle adolescence
"Sometimes you need to spill your heart out to somebody"
Boys with feelings
Nick and George: stories of resistance
II: Friendships during late adolescence
"When you grow up, your heart dies"
As boys become men
Fernando and Danny
The crisis of connection.
Investigating boys, friendships, and human nature
I: Friendships during early and middle adolescence
"Sometimes you need to spill your heart out to somebody"
Boys with feelings
Nick and George: stories of resistance
II: Friendships during late adolescence
"When you grow up, your heart dies"
As boys become men
Fernando and Danny
The crisis of connection.