Cross-cultural adoption : how to answer questions from family, friends, and community / Amy Coughlin and Caryn Abramowitz ; [foreword by Rocky Bleier].

Introduction
The questions kids ask: What does adopted mean?
Where is she from?
Why did they go all the way over there to adopt a child?
Who are her "real" parents?
Why didn't her "real" parents want her?
Was she abandoned?
Why does she look different?
Is she my real cousin?
Where was she before she was adopted?
Why didn't they just have one of their own?
Why are there so many little girls, and not as many boys?
Did she have a different name when she was born?
How much did they pay for her?
Will she be able to understand me and speak English?
What if they want to give her back?
What if she wants to leave them and go back to her birth parents?
Will she remember where she is from or who her birth parents were?
Won't she feel sad when she finds out she's adopted?
Do's and don'ts for grown-ups
Do: treat her like any other kid
Support her when curious strangers ask questions
Respect her privacy
Treat prospective adoptive parents the same as expectant parents
Acknowledge and celebrate the differences
Please don't: Don't introduce her as adopted
Don't say how lucky she is
Don't assume adoption is a second choice
Don't jump to conclusions about the birth mother
Don't tell us we're sure to have our "own" now
Want to know more about her birth country?
China
Russia
The Republic of Guatemala
The Republic of Korea
Ukraine
The Republic of Kazakhstan
Socialist Republic of Vietnam
The Republic of India
The Republic of Colombia
The Republic of haiti
Appendix: resources for learning more about adoption.