Introduction: Lukas's story
What happens to the survivor after someone commits suicide
Emotional reactions to suicide
A family's story
The bargain : a deal we make with life
Bargains : the long good-bye
Bargains : scapegoating
Bargains : "I am guilty; I am a victim"
Bargains : cutting off
Bargains : a miscellany
The saddest bargain : "because you died, I'll die"
The grand bargain : silence
Reactions to an adolescent's suicide
Responding
Giving help by listening
Getting help by talking
Talking with children
Living with suicide : some stories about responding
Epilogue: Lukas's story : a personal summary.