TY  - BOOK
AB  - Through the author's own original field research, a surprising picture of the moral development of children emerges to confirm that parents' intense focus on their children's happiness is turning many children into self-involved, fragile conformists who feel ashamed when they fail to measure up. He posits that parents' challenge is not to teach morality, but first, "to help children deal with the emotions, such as the fear of being a pariah or a 'loser,' that cause them to transgress,"  and, secondly, " to help children develop a deep commitment to these values, a commitment that can override other needs and goals. The issue isn't moral literacy; it's moral motivation. ... Appreciation brakes destructive impulses." Finally, "a third challenge is to develop in children a strong sense of self -- so that they can withstand adversity in the service of moral goals -- and to ingrain in children from early ages the habits of attending to and caring for others."
AU  - Weissbourd, Rick.
CN  - HQ772
CN  - HQ772
CY  - Boston :
DA  - 2009.
ID  - 338474
KW  - Child rearing.
KW  - Parent and child.
KW  - Moral development.
LK  - http://www.loc.gov/catdir/toc/ecip0826/2008036766.html
LK  - http://www.loc.gov/catdir/enhancements/fy0905/2008036766-b.html
LK  - http://www.loc.gov/catdir/enhancements/fy0905/2008036766-d.html
N2  - Through the author's own original field research, a surprising picture of the moral development of children emerges to confirm that parents' intense focus on their children's happiness is turning many children into self-involved, fragile conformists who feel ashamed when they fail to measure up. He posits that parents' challenge is not to teach morality, but first, "to help children deal with the emotions, such as the fear of being a pariah or a 'loser,' that cause them to transgress,"  and, secondly, " to help children develop a deep commitment to these values, a commitment that can override other needs and goals. The issue isn't moral literacy; it's moral motivation. ... Appreciation brakes destructive impulses." Finally, "a third challenge is to develop in children a strong sense of self -- so that they can withstand adversity in the service of moral goals -- and to ingrain in children from early ages the habits of attending to and caring for others."
PB  - Houghton Mifflin Harcourt,
PP  - Boston :
PY  - 2009.
SN  - 9780618626175
SN  - 0618626174
T1  - The parents we mean to be :how well-intentioned adults undermine children's moral and emotional development /
TI  - The parents we mean to be :how well-intentioned adults undermine children's moral and emotional development /
UR  - http://www.loc.gov/catdir/toc/ecip0826/2008036766.html
UR  - http://www.loc.gov/catdir/enhancements/fy0905/2008036766-b.html
UR  - http://www.loc.gov/catdir/enhancements/fy0905/2008036766-d.html
ER  -