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000427436 037__ $$a10.4159/harvard.9780674061361$$bDOI
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000427436 1001_ $$aWay, Niobe,$$d1963-
000427436 24510 $$aDeep secrets$$h[electronic resource] :$$bboys, friendships, and the crisis of connection /$$cNiobe Way.
000427436 260__ $$aCambridge, Mass. :$$bHarvard University Press,$$c2011.
000427436 300__ $$a1 online resource (326 p.)
000427436 500__ $$aDescription based on print version record.
000427436 504__ $$aIncludes bibliographical references (p. [283]-314) and index.
000427436 5050_ $$aThe hidden landscape of boys' friendships -- Investigating boys, friendships, and human nature -- I: Friendships during early and middle adolescence -- "Sometimes you need to spill your heart out to somebody" -- Boys with feelings -- Nick and George: stories of resistance -- II: Friendships during late adolescence -- "When you grow up, your heart dies" -- As boys become men -- Fernando and Danny -- The crisis of connection.
000427436 506__ $$aAccess limited to authorized users.
000427436 520__ $$a"Boys are emotionally illiterate and don't want intimate friendships". In this empirically grounded challenge to our stereotypes about boys and men, the author reveals the intense intimacy among teenage boys especially during early and middle adolescence. Boys not only share their deepest secrets and feelings with their closest male friends, they claim that without them they would go "wacko." Yet as boys become men, they become distrustful, lose these friendships, and feel isolated and alone.  Drawing from hundreds of interviews conducted throughout adolescence with black, Latino, white, and Asian American boys, this work reveals the ways in which we have been telling ourselves a false story about boys, friendships, and human nature. Boys' descriptions of their male friendships sound more like "something out of Love Story than Lord of the Flies." Yet in late adolescence, boys feel they have to "man up" by becoming stoic and independent. Vulnerable emotions and intimate friendships are for girls and gay men. "No homo" becomes their mantra.  These findings are alarming, given what we know about links between friendships and health, and even longevity. Rather than a "boy crisis," the author argues that boys are experiencing a "crisis of connection" because they live in a culture where human needs and capacities are given a sex (female) and a sexuality (gay), and thus discouraged for those who are neither. The author argues that the solution lies with exposing the inaccuracies of our gender stereotypes and fostering these critical relationships and fundamental human skills.
000427436 650_0 $$aMale friendship.
000427436 650_0 $$aEmotions in adolescence.
000427436 650_0 $$aEmotions in children.
000427436 77608 $$iPrint version:$$aWay, Niobe, 1963-$$tDeep secrets.$$dCambridge, Mass. : Harvard University Press, 2011$$z9780674046641$$w(DLC) 2010047702$$w(OCoLC)676725355
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