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1. Dangerous liaisons : a letter from a friend
2. Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love : the chemistry of love
Your brain on crack
Beliefs and brain chemistry
Taking the drug away
Addicted to grief
Emotional pain
Stress, pimples, and gray hair
Love and hate
3. I have feelings too : the philosophy of love
Love as an emotion
Basic and complex emotions
Is love a bodily sensation?
Uniting body and world
Strange connections
Emotional responses to fiction
Perceived responses
4. Hopelessly devoted to you : irrational love
does the idea of irrational love make sense?
You call it madness, I call it love
Irrational compassionate love
The transcendent view of love
Love as a history
Personal identity and the value of our beloveds
Is love unconditional?
5. Why was I holding onto something that would never be mine? : relationships and love attachment
Secure versus insecure attachment
Childish relationships
Avoidant attachment
Anxious attachment
Familiar love
Jealousy and anxious attachment
Avoidance and love as a history
Can attachment styles change?
Attachment love
Can animals love?
6. Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye : unconscious love
Opponents of unconscious affection
Unconscious affect
Two emotional pathways
Unconscious love
In your dreams
Is love a disposition?
7. He's just not that into you : and other in-between cases of love
Prototypes
"Love" is gradable
He's just not that into you
Love and ambivalence
8. I'd do anything for love (but I won't do that) : love and sex
Non-monogamous love as in-between cases
Love and casual sex
The other dimension of sex
9. Un-break my heart : how to fall out of love
Never mind searching for who you are : search for the person you aspire to be
Psychoanalysis and talk therapy
Emotional regulation and avoidance behavior
The repetition technique
Prolonged exposure therapy
Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing
Deep relaxation and meditation
Heartbreak and placement conditioning
The Sinclair Method
Out, damned spot : using soap to wash away your negative feelings
10. Happiness is love, full stop : love, marriage, and the pursuit of happiness
Emotional regulation as a route to happiness
Negative thinking as a path to happiness?
Marriage and happiness
Love and happiness
Sometimes the heart wants what it wants : the end.
2. Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love : the chemistry of love
Your brain on crack
Beliefs and brain chemistry
Taking the drug away
Addicted to grief
Emotional pain
Stress, pimples, and gray hair
Love and hate
3. I have feelings too : the philosophy of love
Love as an emotion
Basic and complex emotions
Is love a bodily sensation?
Uniting body and world
Strange connections
Emotional responses to fiction
Perceived responses
4. Hopelessly devoted to you : irrational love
does the idea of irrational love make sense?
You call it madness, I call it love
Irrational compassionate love
The transcendent view of love
Love as a history
Personal identity and the value of our beloveds
Is love unconditional?
5. Why was I holding onto something that would never be mine? : relationships and love attachment
Secure versus insecure attachment
Childish relationships
Avoidant attachment
Anxious attachment
Familiar love
Jealousy and anxious attachment
Avoidance and love as a history
Can attachment styles change?
Attachment love
Can animals love?
6. Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye : unconscious love
Opponents of unconscious affection
Unconscious affect
Two emotional pathways
Unconscious love
In your dreams
Is love a disposition?
7. He's just not that into you : and other in-between cases of love
Prototypes
"Love" is gradable
He's just not that into you
Love and ambivalence
8. I'd do anything for love (but I won't do that) : love and sex
Non-monogamous love as in-between cases
Love and casual sex
The other dimension of sex
9. Un-break my heart : how to fall out of love
Never mind searching for who you are : search for the person you aspire to be
Psychoanalysis and talk therapy
Emotional regulation and avoidance behavior
The repetition technique
Prolonged exposure therapy
Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing
Deep relaxation and meditation
Heartbreak and placement conditioning
The Sinclair Method
Out, damned spot : using soap to wash away your negative feelings
10. Happiness is love, full stop : love, marriage, and the pursuit of happiness
Emotional regulation as a route to happiness
Negative thinking as a path to happiness?
Marriage and happiness
Love and happiness
Sometimes the heart wants what it wants : the end.